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Question: I am a soon to be 53 year old who has come to her crossroads in life. I’ve been married 24 years and it has come to the point of wanting a divorce from my husband. I no longer am interested in being married and feel that it is holding me back from moving forward in my life.
What should I do? Sometimes my spirit is high and then it drops to a new low. Do other women experience these terrible mood swings? I know that my marriage is no longer healthy for me. Need some advice.
Y.
Dear Y.,
Starting over from marriage is never easy, especially when we’ve invested so much energy into a relationship. We tend to look at people as energy investments and are fearful of letting go. No matter how the energy stock may rise and fall, it is a certainty that energy is limitless and so is your capacity to love. Be comforted, believe in what you do and who you are, love yourself and move forward, whether that is into a new state of mind and heart exactly where you are … or somewhere new altogether. Remember, no matter what you choose, the world needs you and all you have to offer!
Your Affirmation: I am unafraid to move forward. I am confident and look forward to my new future. I love myself and all my wonderful, unique qualities. I am worthy and am ready to show the world what I know and what I can do.
September 4th, 2007 at 7:07 am
I think she should move on if she is not fufilled or does not feel fulfilled anymore in her marriage. We women should never feel we have to stay at a certain place or time in our lives to suit other people we only have one life and i think we should live that life to the fulest. Good luck and God Bless you.
September 4th, 2007 at 8:22 am
This is a normal feeling for women. Being unfilled. Especially during menopause and right after. This is when it sounds like she needs to redefine herself. And unless the husband is a real louse, divorce is the last thing you need to do. After 24 years of marriage you may have to find a love lost. And it is not easy. I have been married 24 years this year. And we have had our shares of up and down. But what I found is I still love him. And I really love me. And I had to find that love for me. I am still searching for my outlet.But I am looking. Dont jump out of the frying pan into the fire. Rethink your decisions and find out what is making you uncomfortable.
September 5th, 2007 at 7:19 am
I am so glad to see a discussion on this letter. The 50’s is when we begin to re-evaluate who we are and what we want out of life - especially if we’ve given plenty of time to the family or other relationships. It’s a time of pruning ideas, not necessarily people. I have found many women who shift their energy from self-criticism to self-love and put time into re-discovering who they are (and develop some new interests!) they become more joyful, satisfied, and attract many new opportunities. Many of these can enhance what they arleady have or give them strength to move on.